Like Mother Like Daughter…or Somewhere in Between : on the idea of not having kids

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Editor’s (lengthy) note: Happy Tuesday, guys! Been a little while here on the little ol’ blog, huh? In the meantime, you might have seen one of my latest articles for HuffPost, titled “Everyone Around Me is Talking Baby Bottles and Wipes, and I’m Over Here Asking for More Wine.” If you haven’t seen it, you can read it here.

I first want to say thank you so much for all the incredible feedback. I thought I would get a little backlash on it, but, in fact, I’ve never gotten such a positive response to any article I’ve ever written. So, thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart. I’m so thrilled it resonated with so many of you. 

Well, one person it didn’t resonate so much with is my mom. She is the most supportive mother out there, and she will support any decision I make (even if it’s not the decision she would have necessarily made), but that doesn’t mean it didn’t upset her a little bit to read the article.

Of course, I’ve expressed to her how I’m not sure if kids are for me, and she’s read my other blog posts on the topic, but I think now that more and more of her friends’ kids are having babies (literally every day someone else is announcing their pregnancy…which is SO very exciting), I think it’s maybe a little hard on her. 

SO, with all this being said, she decided to write a little something for the blog today. In a way, I think it was cathartic for her. It’s her response to my article. Spoiler alert : it might make you tear up. It sure did for me. Have a good week, guys! xo Julie

As Julie and I have been contemplating our next post, I decided to write something on my own, without her even knowing.

As all her followers know, Julie and her husband are not sure if they want to have children. You can only imagine how a mom would feel when she hears something like that. For my husband (Julie’s dad) and I, it has taken a lot of strength and acceptance to know that this might be their wish. 

Mothers of daughters know that there isn’t a stronger relationship than that between a mother and daughter. Julie and I have had the best relationship for as long as I can remember. We are very lucky, and I have never taken that bond for granted. 

Although we often laugh about the one major disagreement we had when she was in high school. I made an executive/mom decision to not allow her to go to a concert in a blinding snowstorm. I vividly remember her slamming her bedroom door, swearing at me(and you know much I love swearing), and telling me how much she hated me. Obviously her words and actions meant nothing, and this event passed quickly. It was one of those mother/daughter moments you never forget.

Julie experienced such a happy and positive childhood. You would think that she would look forward to becoming a mom one day. I even saved her list of names that she wanted to call her children, thinking it would be fun to see if she ended up using any of them one day. 

For me, having a baby is part of life. It is the normal thing to do after you are married for awhile. After your child gets married you just assume it is going to happen within a few years. 

The funny thing is that Julie loves children. She couldn’t love her niece or nephews any more than she does. She is a wonderful aunt and spends as much time as she can with them. Her husband loves children just as much. They are both naturals. 

But for some reason they are unsure about taking the parenthood step. They are both 31 and married just over three years. They are considered young in certain parts of the country, where it is common to start a family later. In other parts of the country it is normal and almost expected to have a couple kids by now. 

For my husband and I, we just assumed it was a matter of time for Julie to start a family. Why wouldn’t we since we rarely hear of couples not having children. Although I have come to realize it is a new world out there. Recently I read several articles about the millennial generation, and how many couples are opting not to having children. (Of course I did not share these articles with Julie). For me, from the baby boomer generation, it was unimaginable not to have children. But this is not about me. It is now my daughter’s turn to make her life choices. 

I can give my opinion about what I feel they will be missing, the joy that children will bring, and the loneliness of growing old without children. However, the ultimate decision to have children is between husband and wife. It is not about what the parents, grandparents or other family members want. It is a big decision and probably the most important one they will make in their lifetime. 

As hard as it is for me to accept what might be, I honestly will support what they decide to do. Although I can’t help but think what an incredible joy it would be to be the grandmother of my daughter’s child.

I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the two loves of my life, my precious grandsons. Thank you to our son and daughter-in-law for giving me the two greatest gifts, and for making me a grandmother. As all you grandparents know, there isn’t a greater joy. 

Julie and her husband will decide one day if they will or if they won’t. I will truly be fine with whatever they decide to do. One thing I do know for sure, I will always love my daughter with all my heart, with or without children. That’s what moms do…they love their children unconditionally.

 

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Like Mother Like Daughter…or Somewhere in Between : on Summer Entertaining Essentials

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Happy Friday and Happy 4th of July weekend! So thrilled the weather is looking great for the next few days so the plan is to spend lots of time soaking up sun up at the lake. Whatever you’re up to, we hope you have a great one. For today’s installment in our Like Mother Like Daughter series, we’re talking about one of our favorite pastimes : summer entertaining. I have vivid memories of my mom entertaining in our various backyards, whether it be for a holiday or just a random Sunday night BBQ. This relaxed time of year calls for parties and gatherings of friends and family, so today we’re bringing you some of our summer entertaining essentials you might want to look into for your summer parties!

Marcee : It’s that favorite time of year when life is casual and carefree! Summer is perfect for outdoor entertaining. From Memorial Day, the unofficial start of summer, to the Fourth of July, and the last hurrah, Labor Day, a barbecue is always the summer favorite. With a small group it is easy to do it alone. However, when the group gets big, it’s time to call in help, either ordering from a restaurant or hiring a caterer. The menu is usually the same, chicken, ribs, hamburgers, hot dogs, along with corn on the cob, salad, cole slaw, potato salad, fruit, and you can’t forget the all important s’mores! What could describe summer more than a good old fashioned barbecue?  Here are some of our favorite things for summer entertaining…

 
 
 

 
 
 
 
Now we’d love to know, what are your summer entertaining essentials? And what are you doing for the 4th? Share in the comments below! 
 
 
 
 
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Like Mother Like Daughter…or Somewhere in Between : on Makeup

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My mom putting lipstick on me at my Bat Mitzvah in 1999

As my mom mentioned in our first post together, she loves makeup. As in LOVES it. And it’s not that I don’t enjoy it; it’s just that I wouldn’t spend hours at a time on the cosmetics floor at Bloomingdale’s (spoiler alert: my mom does that). I really do like it. And I wear it. Though, I don’t wear all that much. I have my tried and true favorites that I wear, but you’ll also find me in no makeup (and more than likely, “athleisure” attire) often. When I do put on my makeup, especially if going to a nicer event, I will absolutely go all out. And by “all out” I mean eyeshadow, eyeliner, and so forth. My mom, on the other hand…

Here we go…one of my favorite topics!

I love makeup! I have always loved makeup! From back in the day when I wore Yardley blue eyeshadow, thick eyeliner and white lipstick (ed note: white lipstick, mom..really?!), I have enjoyed shopping for it, as much as I have enjoyed applying it. It’s my favorite department in any store. Without question the one I enjoy most is Bloomingdale’s in New York City! There isn’t a visit when I don’t get lost on that infamous first floor! 

I like so many brands, but lately my favorite is Giorgio Armani. I have worn it all – Bobbi Brown, Trish McEvoy, Laura Mercier, Chanel, NARS, Yves Saint Laurent…to name a few! I have a very dear friend who always tells me I should only wear drug store brands because makeup is makeup. I know she is right (sort of), and many studies have shown the same to be true. Oh well, I am a creature of habit and I love what I love!

Now, keep on reading for the makeup my mom and I love, along with the brushes and cosmetics cases. Click each item and/or the products at the bottom to read more about the product and/or purchase! In the comments below, be sure to let us know your favorite makeup. Did any of your favorites make our lists? 

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Like Mother Like Daughter…or Somewhere in Between : on Moving

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Hi guys! It’s been a little radio silent on the blog these past couple weeks, huh? My work has been so extremely fulfilling and all encompassing lately that I feel like all my creative juices are going in that direction, which leaves my little blog hanging in the wings. As I’ve said before, I’ll always have a blog, and it does bring me so much happiness, but some days and weeks it’ll be a bit lighter on content than others. Cool? Cool.

Now, let’s get to today’s post, shall we? We’re back with another installment in our “Like Mother Like Daughter” series. You all seemed to love our first one, and my mom and I are so thrilled. As of now, the plan is to post every other week, but it very well may become more frequent as time goes on. It’s been so much fun to work on, and we’re so happy it’s resonating with so many of you.

Today we’re talking about a topic that my mom and I know all too well, a topic we touched upon last time and in previous posts on my blog : moving. From when I was two years old, we were moving, on average, every few years. Sounds crazy, right? In retrospect, it kind of was! 

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Introducing: Like Mother, Like Daughter…or Somewhere in Between

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Ever since I can remember, I’ve been extremely close with my mom. Some therapists would say we’re too close (in fact, one has told me that, ha!). Though, I don’t see anything wrong with a mother and daughter being close (most of my girlfriends are just as close with their moms). It’s a bond unlike any other. And while I can’t speak from having my own daughter, I know it’s different than any other relationship in one’s life. It’s a special one, a unique one, and for some, it can even be a challenging one. 

In honor of Mother’s Day this weekend, I thought it would be the perfect time to kick off a new series that’s been in the works, called “Like Mother, Like Daughter…or Somewhere in Between.” 

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Bookshelves: Before and After

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A few months back I got on a major reorganization kick. I was just feeling cluttered, in every form of the word. I did a major closet overhaul (though, that’s still in progress), and I have piles upon piles upon piles to go through and sell/donate. I also got fed up with my home office. For some reason, I wasn’t using it. I’d do work on my couch downstairs or at the table instead. Why on earth was I not using my home office? It bothered me. SO, I decided to clear it out. I thought that maybe if I decluttered it would help rejuvenate the space in a big way. 

When I first set up the bookshelves in my home office, I loved them. They weren’t too cluttered, and I thought they looked awesome. Well, fast forward a few years, and over time, things have been added to them, and they just got busy looking, and not pretty, in my mind. I was simply sick of them. 

SO, I removed every single solitary thing from the shelves and dumped it all on the floor (see picture below for the mess I made), and I mindfully put things back. I have to say, I’m thrilled with the outcome. It’s so much more clean and open. See below for the before and after shots, along with some tips and pointers I have if you get inspired to rejig your bookshelves. 

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Just Dance, and Then Dance Some More: My Experience at Dance with Me (Part 2)

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Hey guys and hellllllo May! Crazy that it’s already May, I must say. Though, now that it’s here, I’m counting down the seconds to summer.

If you follow along on Instagram, Snapchat, or Facebook (or read this blog post), you likely saw that a couple months back I partnered with Dance with Me Studios for 5 private lessons at their Woodlands location. And, seriously, each one was SUCH a blast.

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An Interview with Actress Hannah Shankman

You know that feeling you get at a Broadway show (or any theater performance, really) while watching? It’s an escape to something magical. Whenever I’m watching a show, I’m simply in awe. Of everything. Well, Hannah Shankman, 31, gets to HannahHeadshotSmhelp bring that joy to people every day of her life. Hannah is an actress on Broadway who has been in some of the biggest shows out there (Wicked, Hair, Les Miserables, to name a few). Though, it hasn’t always been in a walk in the park. She’s been told “no” plenty times, she hasn’t always gotten the role she’s wanted, but she pushes through, and keeps going because this is her passion and what she’s meant to do. She is insanely talented and is truly living her dream. Keep on reading for what her favorite part about acting is, what a day in her life looks like, advice for those wanting to become a professional actor/actress, what inspires her, and much more.

How long have you been acting and singing?

I’ve been singing for as long as I can remember. I used to sing all the Disney songs as a kid and pretend to be the characters! But I’ve been doing plays since I was in 3rd grade. I started with school shows and then started doing after school theatre programs, and now I’ve been acting professionally for about 10 years. 

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An Interview with Tracy Eisenman, Director of Integrated Sales, Teen Vogue

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How would you like to see Anna Wintour in your office building fairly regularly? Pretty cool (albeit intimidating?), if you ask me. Well, while Tracy Eisenman, 29, worked at Teen Vogue, this is something that became rather “normal!” For over a image1year, Tracy held the position as Director of Integrated Sales at Teen Vogue, and she very recently started a new job at Goop. At the time of this interview, she was still with Teen Vogue, so the questions are based around that. Aside from Teen Vogue and Goop, Tracy has GQ on her resume, as well as WIRED. This girl has quite a career, and she’s not stopping anytime soon. She lives in NYC, works incredibly hard, but also has time to unwind at The Boom Boom Room. Keep on reading for what inspires Tracy, what she loved most and found the most challenging at her Teen Vogue job, her biggest ‘pinch me’ moment of her career, thus far, her favorite spots in NYC, and much more. 

How long have you been working at Teen Vogue? What were you doing prior?

I have been at Teen Vogue for 1 year and 4 months.  Previously I was at WIRED, fully immersed in a thought-leader brand.  WIRED took pride in breaking news, like Edward Snowden’s whereabouts, as well as sharing economic theories, like The Long Tail and Crowdsourcing, that would soon be picked up as daily rhetoric. 

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