I Simply Don’t Know

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I’m just going to come out and say it: I don’t know if I want kids.

I briefly mentioned this in a post a while back when talking about ‘the norm,’ but I wanted to dive in a little deeper. I think it’s top of mind because literally everyone around me is talking babies, getting pregnant, or having babies. Now, don’t get me wrong – I love babies and kids…absolutely LOVE. Being an aunt is truly my favorite thing. However, I just don’t know if I want kids of my own. I simply don’t know. 

I feel like ever since I turned 30 (a little over a year ago) it’s become quite the popular question from family and friends. So, Julie, when do you think you’ll have kids? Is this the year? I do think this is the most commonly asked question I get. I’m not mad. In fact, it doesn’t bother me or annoy me at all. I understand why the question is asked. I understand why people want to know. I get it. I’m 31, been married almost 3 years, and ‘the next step’ is, well, to have kids.

But maybe that’s not the next step for me. 

Do I know why I’m not sure if I want kids? Nope.

Part of me feels so young still, and not ready to be a mother. Part of me is really fucking scared of pregnancy and labor. Part of me isn’t ready for life to change THAT much just yet. Part of me thinks it’s because there’s so much I still want to do and accomplish and that’s my focus right now. Of course, you can still do and accomplish anything you want with kids in tow, but maybe I’m just a little selfish still. Maybe I’m just not ready. For whatever the reasons might be, kids aren’t on the brain right now. 

It’s not that I’m not supportive of those who want kids or have kids. I am truly SO excited when a friend tells me they are pregnant. I’m thrilled to celebrate my friends at their baby showers and their kids’ birthday parties. I love hanging out with my friends’ littles. I love shopping for the little ones, too (I mean, baby clothes!!). 

And on the darker flip side, I  feel so much empathy and compassion for those who have trouble getting pregnant. I really do. I can only imagine what it’s like to go through something like that, and part of me feels awful for even writing this post. However, I have always been an open book, and this is just part of my story.  

I guess what I’m trying to say is that you should never do something if you don’t want to do it. You should never do something solely because you feel that’s what you should do. You should never make a decision based on what others want you to do; you need to want it, too. If your heart isn’t in something (especially something as big as having kids), then maybe it’s just not in the cards for you at this time. And you know what? That’s ok. That’s perfectly ok. 

Maybe one day I’ll want kids more than anything. Maybe one day I’ll have kids. Or maybe one day I won’t. Only time will tell. And until then, I’ll just continue spoiling my nephews and niece (Hi Blake, Jace, Evan, and Lexi!).

 

 

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An Interview with Meredith Staggers, Owner and Creative Director of Cake & Confetti

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You know those Instagram feeds that are simply, well, perfect? You don’t want the feed to end because every picture is beautiful and so well done? You know the ones I’m talking about! Well, today’s interviewee is actual Instagram goals, guys. Meredith Staggers, Owner and Creative Director of Cake & Confetti, is a girl boss if I ever saw one. She is a photo stylist, event consultant, and content creator, and, most recently, she’s expanded her business into helping others with their Instagram feed and to teach how to best utilize it. Aside from Meredith being insanely cool, creative, and inspiring, this girl View More: http://michelleablephotography.pass.us/cakeandconfettiworks HARD. She is the first one to say that she’s not an overnight success (in fact, she doesn’t even believe in said term). She went down many different roads, tried many different things, and even considered shutting down Cake & Confetti at one point. Well, good thing she didn’t, because her business is thriving, and it’s been so fun to follow along. Keep on reading for the story behind Cake & Confetti, her favorite shoots she’s ever done, her #1 piece of advice for a great Instagram feed, and MUCH more. Enjoy! 

How long has Cake & Confetti been around?

Technically 2013, but I went full-time at the beginning of 2015!

Why did you decide to start Cake & Confetti and what were you doing prior?

I started Cake & Confetti as a creative outlet after I fell in love with event planning during the whole wedding planning process. I was working full-time for an advertising agency, but I wanted something more creative to do on the side. Honestly, I never intended it to turn into a “real” job! The first couple years I planned and designed a dozen or so weddings and a lot of smaller celebrations like birthdays, baby showers, etc. But after one too many late nights spent crafting until 3am or assembling favors for a birthday party, I decided I no longer wanted to plan events.

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Yoga Moves You Can Do Anywhere to Help With Stress and Anxiety

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You don’t have to be a ‘yogi’ to realize the benefits the practice of yoga can bring to your everyday life. If you’ve done yoga before, you more than likely know that ‘yogi high’ you feel after a practice. It’s a feeling I wish could be bottled up for all to experience. And the good news is you can bring yoga into your home whenever you like.

My friend and life coach, Rachel Tenenbaum, who you’ve seen on the blog before (she also led my birthday yoga class!), is here today to talk about easy yoga moves you can do anywhere, with no fancy equipment, that help with stress and anxiety. 

Whether or not you practice yoga, and whether or not you are a beginner or extremely advanced, these poses anyone can do, anywhere. So, keep on reading to find out what they are. Take it away, Rach!

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Do You Have Any Shitty Habits? Let’s Break Those.

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By definition, a habit is ‘a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.’ The key part is ‘hard to give up’ because it’s true…you can’t just flick a switch, and your habit of biting your nails since you were 8 years old is now gone.

The funny thing about habits (err – maybe not funny, per se) is that oftentimes we do them because we find them comforting. They help alleviate anxiety, they make us feel at ease, and quite simply, they become part of our daily routine. And while not all habits are bad (i.e. meditating every morning as soon as you wake up), many times they are. And it can be hard as hell to break them.

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The Lineup // 2.17.17

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I’m so excited because tonight I’m heading up to Maryland to meet my new nephew, Jace! He was born on Wednesday, and he’s the cutest little peanut. And, of course, it goes without saying that I’m equally as excited to see my other nephew, Blake, who is just the most adorable, fun little dude ever. It’ll be a quick trip, but I can hardly wait to get there and be with my family. Aside from that, it’s been a busy week, and it flew by! Are you  off work Monday? What are you doing for the long weekend? Whatever you’re up to, hope you have a great one! Enjoy some great finds and reads below. xo Julie

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This Fearful Flyer Loves Vonlane

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A month or so back I decided to book a trip to Dallas for meetings and to see a couple friends and their babies. I had heard of Vonlane through my dear friend Lindsay who takes it all the time from Austin to Houston for work, but I had never tried it out. So, you can imagine how thrilled I was to partner with Vonlane on my recent trip to the Big D! 

Now, for those of you who are unfamiliar wth Vonlane, it is basically a first class airplane cabin on wheels. This is far from the Greyhound. This is luxury (on wheels). When I first told people I was taking a bus, their initial reactions were of surprise and slight intrigue. Then when I explained what type of bus it was, their ears perked up. 

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An Interview with Collin Bray, VP of Sales, Century 21 Cityside

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Something you might not know about me is that I lived in Boston for 4 years a little while back. Well, really, a long while back; it feels like a lifetime ago! To this day, it’s still my favorite city in the country. And someone I met soon into my time in Boston is the guy you’ll be reading about in today’s interview: Collin Bray. We quickly became close friends, and already back then he was killing it in his career. It’s been so exciting to watch his continued success these past 8 years. In my mind, he runs Boston real estate. You’ve never seen someone so passionate about their job until you’ve met Collin. He lives and Collin Braybreathes real estate (and he’s a looker, too, ladies!). He is the VP of Sales at Century 21 Cityside and I was so happy he could take time out of his busy day to answer some questions. Keep on reading for Collin’s favorite part about his job, how he balances his work life and his personal life, his favorite thing about Boston, advice for a newbie in the real estate industry, and much more.

When did you first start working in real estate? Did you know this is what you wanted to do since you were little? If not, when did you realize?

I started twelve years ago. I had no idea I wanted to get into real estate, but my father is in real estate and had to take me to showings as a kid so it must have been in my sub-conscious. 

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Let’s Talk Aphrodisiacs

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Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! If I’m being totally honest, I’m not the biggest Valentine’s Day person. Yes, I LOVE love and am far from a cynic, but it’s simply just never been my thing. However, whether you like the holiday or not, I will say, it IS a good reminder to spread the love and to show those loved ones in your life just how much you care. And it’s also a good excuse to buy those Dove chocolate hearts which I’ve been eating far too many of recently. 

Another thing Valentine’s Day can be good for is your sex life! Yep, there I said it. It’s a gentle reminder to keep the passion alive in whatever relationship you’re currently in. Now, when it comes to sexy time, you have to be in the mood, right? And what if you’re not in the mood? Bummer for your partner. 

Enter: aphrodisiacs. 

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Lessons Learned from Gossip Girl

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For the past many weeks I’ve been re watching every episode from every season of Gossip Girl. I think I’ve done this once before, but it’s definitely been a while. And, really, this show is simply the best. From the relationships to the fights to the drama to the love, it’s a good one, and I’m still debating whether I like Chuck or Nate better. Chuck has that sexy bad guy vibe while Nate is, well, perfect. 

However, we’re not here today to talk about Nate and Chuck because Dorota is really the shining star of the series, if we’re being honest; we’re here to talk about lessons learned from this ever so fabulous show. One might not think there are actually lessons to be learned from a ‘silly’ show like this one. Oh, but you’re wrong, my friends. There are plenty. So, let’s get into it. xoxo, Julie Lauren (get it?)

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The Lineup // 2.10.17

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Well, this week flew by quicker than anything! I was in Dallas for a couple days, and when I came back it was nonstop. This weekend I don’t have too much going on – a dinner, a brunch, and possibly stopping by a music/food festival on Saturday for a bit. Otherwise, I’m going to be getting a lot of work/writing done (or at least that’s the aim). I’ve also been re watching Gossip Girl and I just LOVE this show. Anyone seeing ’50 Shades Darker’ this weekend? I’m SO excited to see it. I’ll probably wait until it comes out on Netflix or something, but I’m definitely excited for it. Anywho, below you’ll find some great links and things I’ve been loving. Enjoy and have an awesome weekend! xo Julie

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