We all know life is a combination of ups and downs, and that’s what makes it exciting (and certainly never dull!). And with those downs might come situations that really, well, just kind of suck. While the easiest thing to do would be to simply avoid the situation all together, maybe ‘push it under the rug,’ and just kind of move on, that’s not necessarily the best thing to do.
It Seems Like a Good Idea
The thing with avoidance is that while in the moment it seems like a good idea because you no longer have to think about this situation that is causing you pain/anxiety/confusion/fill in the blank, you aren’t actually dealing with it, which means it will always be there. Whether it rears its ugly head later in life or subconsciously it’s always in the back of your head, it’s there.
Trust me, I’ve been in situations where the easiest thing to do would be to avoid, ignore, and move on. I think we all have. And while it takes courage, strength, energy, and time to deal with whatever is in front of you, it’ll be worth it in the end.
Oftentimes the reason we’re avoiding something is because we’re really scared of what’s on the other side. We’re scared of what’ll happen if we decide to deal with the situation. We’re scared of the outcome. Even if the outcome is what is supposed to happen, it can still be really fucking frightening. Though, if you remind yourself that this temporary feeling of discomfort is going to get you to a better place, it can help when working through it.
At the end of the day, you don’t want to look back on your life with regret or wonder. If you avoid dealing with hard situations or having those tough conversations, you might find yourself just going through the motions, and thirty years down the line, you might question why you never actually dealt with the situation. Of course, not all situations you find yourself in will be life-altering, but if you, quite literally, avoid the avoidance (ha!), you’ll find yourself living a more peaceful life because you’ll be living it honestly and truthfully.
So, guys, next time you find yourself in a scenario that isn’t ideal and that can be dealt with by simply communicating and working through it, I challenge you to not run from it, but instead, face it head on.